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  Tarot for True Romance

  Andrea Green

  © Andrea Green, 2014.

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  About the Author

  Andrea Green is the pen-name of a tarot insider. Her first book, True Tarot Card Meanings went straight to #1 in Tarot books worldwide (Kindle and Print) where it has remained as the top-selling book for Tarot for over a year!

  She has spent many years reading and researching tarot and the esoteric arts and is dedicated to sharing the knowledge that she has accumulated over the years. She believes that there should be no mysteries in tarot and is dedicated to helping every person discover tarot for themselves.

  Your free Guide to Tarot and Spreads, written by Andrea, is available now from:

  www.mytarotcardmeanings.com

  CONTENTS

  Preface

  Choosing Your Deck

  Asking the Tarot a Relationship Question

  A Short History of Romance

  Keywords for the Suits

  Keywords for the Numbers

  The Court of Love

  Page of Pentacles

  Page of Swords

  Page of Cups

  Page of Wands

  Knight of Pentacles

  Knight of Swords

  Knight of Cups

  Knight of Wands

  Queen of Pentacles

  Queen of Swords

  Queen of Cups

  Queen of Wands

  King of Pentacles

  King of Swords

  King of Cups

  King of Wands

  The Tarot Makeover

  The Wands – Values Makeover

  The Pentacles – Practical Makeover

  The Cups – Emotional Makeover

  The Swords – Mental Makeover

  Breakers and Makers

  The Major Arcana in Relationships

  Relationship Spreads

  1. RE-IGNITE MY FIRE

  2. CUPID’S ARROW

  3. BLIND DATE

  4. SILVER LINING

  5. BOUNDARIES

  6. THE 7 YEAR ITCH

  7. REBOUND READING

  8. DEAL OR DITCH

  The Top Seven Toxic Relationship Cards

  9. SWAN SONG

  10. HEART & HEAD

  A Bonus Method for Resolving Arguments

  Consecrating Your Cards for Magick

  Conclusion

  Kindle Tarot Books & Series

  Gated Spreads Series

  Tarosophy KickStart Series

  Volume I.

  Tarot Life Series

  Also in Print and Kindle

  Websites & Resources

  Preface

  Every tarot card reader knows that relationship questions are the most common brought to our tables;

  When will Dwayne come back to me?

  When will I meet Mr (or Mrs) Right?

  Is he/she my Soul Mate?

  Should I trust my new Partner?

  Why won’t he/she commit?

  Why can’t I settle down?

  Should I leave my present relationship?

  These may even be some of the questions we ask ourselves as readers from time to time, as we also have relationships in our lives.

  In fact, this is so common a question that an amazing THREE out of every FIVE questions you will ever get as a tarot reader will be a relationship question![i]

  So, we’ll begin by learning quick and powerful keywords for appreciating the cards in a relationship reading. That’ll get you reading the tarot in mere minutes!

  Then we will learn how to use the tarot deck to enjoy a full relationship makeover – or a relationship assessment!

  We’ll also look at the toxic relationship cards, and their antidotes, and how to win over every court card – all sixteen types of people you will meet.

  We know that relationships go through many stages. In this book I’ll share with you my special tarot spreads and methods to help mend relationships – fan the flames of passion in the embers of an existing relationship – find direction in love – find the positive in the negative – discover boundaries – move past boredom and bad relationship habits – reveal how your past relationships are effecting your new relationship – and gain clarity between your head and your heart. All with a pack of tarot cards!

  At the end of the book, I’ll share a bonus method for sorting out arguments and making decisions in a relationship

  Remember that tarot by itself is not the complete answer to any issue in life. You must also draw on your experience, your friends and family, experts – particularly for all serious matters – and common-sense. Not even I would change my whole life on one card without serious consideration!

  So why True Romance? Well, I think that true romance is found by being true to oneself and romancing your own life. If you cannot find the romance in your own life, it is impossible for anyone else to discover it for you. Most of these methods sneak in some self-discovery elements and proactive advice; your cards and your life are both equally in your hands alone!

  The tarot offers a magical perspective on the world that draws on centuries of insight, symbolism and spiritual wisdom – let it work its magic for you!

  In this book I’ve given spreads and methods that are absolutely unique to my own work – you’ll not find these anywhere else unless they’ve been copied! I hope you enjoy them and look forward to hearing about your experiences!

  This book can be best used with the free spreads and keywords given in my free book at:

  www.mytarotcardmeanings.com

  I would also recommend my first book, True Tarot Card Meanings, as a further reference to each card, if you have not already got it!

  If you have not already got a tarot deck to hand, let’s start by recommending a few for you.

  Choosing Your Deck

  I love every tarot deck, but the most lovely is the Rider-Waite deck designed by A. E. Waite and drawn by Pamela Colman-Smith. She was called “the pixie” and brings a mischievous sense of humor to Mr. Waite’s rather more dry tone! Their deck, which was created and published in 1909, is easily the most recognizable tarot deck and also the best-selling. This is because it is ideal for beginners looking to learn tarot easily.

  I have put a card carousel on my site at:

  www.mytarotcardmeanings.com

  where you can go and look at some of the most popular versions of this deck, and two other decks which are lovely, and based on Waite & Smith’s cards; the Hanson-Roberts and the Robin Wood Tarot decks. Whichever you choose, they are all delightful.

  I have also recommended the incredible Tarot Illuminati, which has recently been published by Lo Scarabeo. You will see also the Thoth Tarot deck by Aleister Crowley and Frieda Harris, which I think should be on every tarot readers list of cards, as a stunning piece of art.

  If you are into cats and you fancy exploring the Marseille deck as a beginner, then you should check out the Marseille Cat Tarot (Lo Scarabeo, 2014). This deck comes with a little white book that gives a simple yet delightful guide to get the best out of your deck.

  If you have like me been glued to the epic, “Vikings” drama, and are fascinated by the Norse gods, the Vikings Tarot deck will take you on a transformative journey. I like especially the tarot Major “Strength” card in that deck.

  I was also fascinated by Greek myths as a child, and if you were too, you will just love the Olympus Tarot. So many of these myths actually have a real life connection to us in our everyday lives. How often have you worked so hard to cook or clean, and then find yourself having to do it all over again! A particular Greek myth comes to mind, that of Sisyphus who for all eternity has to roll a weighty boulder up a hill, and is then left frustrated as it rolls back down and he has to repeat the task over and over again. Life does imitate myth, and this can be explored in a series of Kindle booklets called Tarot Temple where you perform temple-dreaming in your sleep for healing work, transformation and even prophecy!

  There is such a wide range of tarot out there, with more decks being created every month, so you will be sure to find the decks that work best for you! You can join the free Facebook group at the Tarosophy Tarot Association to keep up to date with all the latest decks and get advice and recommendations at any time.

  All the links to these resources can be found at the back of this book.

  Now, having chosen our deck, let’s look at asking a question of tarot and then start learning how to read the cards for relationships!

  Asking the Tarot a Relationship Question

  I would first like to show you how I rephrase some questions to ensure that my querent is in the best place to move onwards with their life, rather than get stuck in regrets of the past. In relationship questions, it is really important to ask the right question of the cards so they can provide the most effective answer.

  The most common question – and yet also the worst – is “When Will Dwayne Come Back to Me?”

  This is a very bad question (no matter the situation) because it already means that someone has answered a lot of other questions which should be asked first – and their answers are all made up!

  They have answered these
questions:

  Is Dwayne coming back to me?

  Will Dwayne stay when he comes back?

  Is it good for me that Dwayne comes back?

  Is it good for Dwayne to have left this relationship?

  Is it good for us both that the situation is as it is?

  Do I need to make any changes in my life as a result of this?

  And so on.

  It is far better to ask these other questions of the cards first to really get the most out of the situation – we should use the cards to learn and avoid making future mistakes, I feel.

  In fact, I’d also add from experience that we should avoid asking about “good” and “bad” but rather concentrate on what is more “useful to know” about a situation. The cards sometimes ignore our question and tell us that anyway – what is most useful, even if it may be not something we want to hear or are quite ready to hear.

  So perhaps some more useful questions are:

  What can I learn most at this time?

  What could I do?

  What in my past do I need to look at now?

  Where might I aim in the future?

  Or instead of “When will I meet Mr (or Mrs) Right?”, how about:

  What type of person draws out the best in me?

  Where will I most likely meet someone for partnership?

  What is the best person I can be - to attract the right person for me?

  Of course, many sitters will want their original question answered, and you are free to answer whatever question is asked of you. However, I do feel that we can do much better sometimes as readers to point our client to deeper patterns and solutions. After all, they may only be consulting a tarot spread once – we have the experience of many thousands of spreads to draw upon.

  Before we look at other questions and spreads to answer them, let’s quickly look at the history of romance itself. You may be surprised just how recent an idea the whole notion of a “romantic life” is!

  A Short History of Romance

  In my first book, we looked at a short history of the tarot. We saw that the tarot as most commonly recognized is a family of card decks, from the 15th century in Italy. It is most often 78 cards divided into four suits of 14 cards (10 numbered cards and 4 Court cards for each suit) and 22 Major cards. There are presently about 1,000 different decks in print or circulation, and many more out-of-print, rare and collectable decks.

  In this book, as we are concentrating on romance and relationships, we have to return yet again to Europe – Italy, France, England and Germany in particular – to look at the romantic tradition.

  I feel that understanding where our modern-day ideas come from in history helps us get a real grasp of the place of romance in our modern life – it is not all “Sex in the City”!

  As I’ve mentioned, most of the questions that I am asked as a tarot reader are connected to relationship and romance, life and love - and how to get more of all those things. But the important thing I have found is that you have to romance your own life.

  I can hear you asking “what does she mean?!” Well, the concept of romance originally comes from the noble chivalric tradition of Courtly love or fine amor. It was something that was actually contrived - it did not come naturally. Way back in those dark days, life was much more brutal. Men were men and women were… down-trodden. As ever, the nobles decided that they wanted to turn love into a bit of a game, a bit of thrill. So some enterprising person came up with ‘Courtly Love’ as something to lighten up life.

  The woman became the focus of idolization and the man would have to bend over backwards to please her… he would have to go thorough certain trials and tribulations to please her, thereby showing that he was worthy on all levels, from the bedroom to out in the world.

  So we can see that the Game of Love, whilst nothing new, is not too ancient either! It is at times a case of knowing how to play the game.

  The question is how the tarot can help the questioner (in love) play the game better. I have come up with some special love spreads to help solve this.

  Keywords for the Suits

  First, let’s quickly review some of the keywords that we can apply to the four suits of the tarot. I have tweaked these meanings a little to be more conducive to relationship readings.

  So if you have a lot of Pentacles in a spread (later in this book), then it means the relationship is secure, steady and committed. If you have mainly Pentacles and Cups, then it also has a lot of love in it!

  Unfortunately, in most relationship readings, the Swords are the bearers of the bad news more often than not. A relationship reading with a lot of Swords is going to literally be a cutting situation.

  Pentacles

  Resources, security, steadfastness, commitment, materialistic, mathematical flair, green fingers, stubborn, fixed, reliable, trustworthy, investment, speculator, earthy, home builder, handsome, accomplished, complete, practical, indomitable, calm, where with all, dependable, rooted, boring/bland, authentic, stick in the mud …

  Cups

  Emotions, loving, generous, maternal, emotional, intuitive, dreamy, relaxed, peace loving, mediator, animal lover, empathetic, sharing, caring, healer, weeper, selfless, appreciative, sacrificial, fair minded, harmonious, hospitable, artistic, community, sociable, likes Facebook, faith, fanciful (believes in fairies) psychic, hypnotic, visual (good at visualizing) trusting, friendly, open, love of nature, home maker, natural, nurturer, superficial, sentimental, gushing, beautiful, flighty, dramatic (drama queen) …

  Wands

  Values, innovative, fiery, quick, alert, over active, fidget, compulsive, addictive, aggressive, industrious & hardworking, independent, ambitious, magnetic, attractive, flamboyant, dynamic, versatile, spontaneous, jittery, hectic, enterprising, confident, exciting, thrilling, brash …

  Swords

  Ideas, intellectual, know-it-all, quick witted, good joke teller, justice, decisive, sharp, cruel, cold, cutting (words) verbal, writer, direct, bitchy, gossip, paranoid, cautious, manipulative, severe, plotter, authoritative, crafty, tyrannical, analytical, truthful, distrustful, ruthless, articulate, suspicious, malicious, Twitter, knowledge, evidence, respectable, sure, amusing, brutal, callous …

  Keywords for the Numbers

  We can now do the same with the numbers 1 to 10 to discover the stages of relationship:

  1 (Ace): Seed of potential relationship.

  2: The meeting together.

  3: The celebration and sharing.

  4: The building.

  5: The sorting out.

  6: The balancing.

  7: The moving forwards.

  8: The second sorting.

  9: The looking to renew.

  10: The final stage of relationship.

  At the Ten stage, we must take up all that has gone before and re-seed it to go round the cycle again. Relationships go through circular patterns – and we must make them a spiral upwards, learning each time we go round.

  You can now put these together to come up with the meaning of any of the Minor cards; for example, the Six of Cups is the card of balancing (6) emotions (cups), whereas the Five of Wands is the card of sorting out (5) values (5). Easy!

  So if you had a lot of Sixes in a reading, this would show the relationship was at a big balancing stage – so care would be needed, diplomacy and tact, to get the perfect balance. If the reading also seemed to have a lot of Swords in it, then this would indicate that the relationship needed talking out about – so less emotion and more thought was required.

  We will look at the Court Cards for relationships next and then we can start on my ten or eleven spreads for every stage of relationship.

  Don’t forget you can apply all of the card meanings here and get a cheat sheet with general and popular spreads to practice at my website at www.mytarotcardmeanings.com with my free “Tarot Keys” booklet.

  The Court of Love

  In terms of the Court cards for relationship readings, these are often the people involved, or aspects of ourselves or our partner. So it is important to look at the Court Cards in terms of how we can “win” them over – not just as another person, but as a part of ourselves. We should aim to be true to these parts of ourselves, and a tarot reading will often show which parts we need to bring into play!